When was the last time you did something just for yourself?

I often ask my clients, friends and family this question. They usually reply with an, ' I don’t have time!' or 'I just have way too much to do!'

Here’s the thing, if you consistently don’t put yourself first; it will negatively impact every area of your life. 

Before you go into the stories like: 'I have to put my kids as top priority.', or 'If I don’t put work first I won’t be able to survive.', please stop and realize, that if your gas tank is empty or only partially full you can’t maintain this cycle without something eventually breaking down, and it just might be you.

Now, I’m not promoting selfishness, nor suggesting you ignore everyone else and what they require.

But, I am encouraging you to get real with yourself and realize that there are things we actually need as we are having this human experience. 

Let’s talk about food for instance. I’ve lost count of how many people tell me they forget to eat, or worse,...

Have you ever known someone who struggles in basically every area of their life?

No matter what they do they can’t seem to catch a break. They work super hard and try to be optimistic, yet things seem to stay the same or get worse for them.

It can often be difficult to know what to say to be encouraging or supportive when outwardly it looks like they are doing "all the right '' things.

But, they aren't getting the results they want.

The person clearly has thought loops such as…

I keep working hard, but nothing is going right. Maybe I'm not working hard enough; I'll work harder, hmm but that won't work either since I've tried that before, ugh I suck! I have no idea what to do, nothing works for me!!

So with all those thoughts spinning, you’ll feel worse and worse focusing and activating more of what you don't want.

A vicious cycle. It's like getting caught on a crappy thought hamster wheel.

So what can you do about it?

First be aware when you’re focused on the...

How often do you take a moment to appreciate the things and people in your life?

Maybe your answer was never, I don’t know or there’s nothing to appreciate in my life right now.

Those answers are fine, they show you where you’re currently focused. However, continuing to think like that will only keep you stuck in more of the same.

We live In a world where we’re bombarded with messages that nothing is quite good enough and we always need more. Don’t get me wrong, having goals and dreams is fantastic and important to an expansive happy life. But, so is regularly acknowledging what is “right & good”  in your life.

It is common to hear people going on about how bad things are and that one day they will be happy.

One day?

The day when they have said goal accomplished…but that day will never come. Yea sure, you may very well reach your goal but then you’ll feel that’s no longer good enough and start focusing on another reason to be unsatisfied with your life.

Sound familiar to a...

What comes to mind when I mention the word Magic?

Perhaps a disappearing card trick? Or maybe a Disney movie type of feeling? What about you? 

Have you ever thought of yourself as magical?

What if I told you that you are walking, talking, breathing magic?! And accepting yourself as magical can create way more ease in your life.

Now, I know some don’t like the word magic but you can use another word, whatever you like. The point is to get into the state of being where you know that you are truly limitless! And start making things that you thought were miraculous normal in your world.

Quantum Physics tells us that our bodies and everything we see are holograms that are simply flickering and changing at speeds we can’t even comprehend.

So how does this help you to create a life you desire and realize you’re magical?

Well, when you realize that your thoughts, beliefs, and meanings that you attach to anything you’re observing changes the molecules in your body and the Univer...

The dynamics of each family are different and can certainly be a source of stress, struggle, and stuck-ness for many.

As a child, you want to make your parents/caregivers, grandparents and other family members happy and proud of you. You depend on them for survival and need them to be accepting of or risk being ostracized. 

A very common thing I see and remember doing myself as a child is processing for my parents.

How many times have you watched very young kids throwing a fit and wonder what is going on, why can't they control their child better?!

Well, most often they are processing feelings and emotions that their parents are squishing down and avoiding.

Kids are super aware of energies and emotions, even if they are unable to express them verbally. That pattern of the child taking on their parents' pain and suffering started long ago and can be passed down in families.

I sometimes see this in the DNA and until someone in the family has the awareness and decides they want...

How many times have you caught yourself ruminating over past mistakes?

Beating yourself up over big and little things that didn’t go the way you wanted them to…that feels fantastic, huh?!

Firstly, what if there are no mistakes, just choices you made, nothing right or wrong about them. And secondly, you are free to choose something different at any given moment.

But, most people decide to stay stuck, rather than taking their attention off of perceived failures and creating something new.

In this world, we are addicted to fixing things.

Judging the crap out of everyone and everything, keeping ourselves in little boxes trying to be all things to all people. Jumping through hoops to be right about something, anything!

One big thing keeping you stuck is looking at anyone or anything as needing to be fixed.

If you think something needs to be fixed you’re already judging it as broken and something being wrong with it.

Another thing you may be doing is getting yourself stuck i...

This time of year is my absolute favorite! I’m not always great at taking the time to soak up all that nature has to offer, but this time of year I can’t help but stop and take notice!

There is something extra special about the month of September. No matter where I’ve lived, the sunsets during this month are dazzling!

It's sort of like the beauty reflected back is saying that all is well and remember to relax and take it all in. 

People tend to love particular types of weather and landscapes and dislike others.

But, what if you took a moment to see and experience the beauty that each part of the planet and each season has to offer?

For example, many don’t like snow, so they decide if it's snowing or there is snow on the ground they are going to have a bad day, or at least be annoyed until it melts.

Some like dry climates and scenes, others prefer lush tropical surroundings.

None of these things are better than the other but believing so can block you from all the beauty and...

When was the last time you had fun while working?

Whether you own your own business or work for someone else; fun is something that is way too often missing.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

Let’s talk about some ways you can add fun to your work, even if that currently sounds crazy and impossible.

The first thing is to realize that so many people have been complaining about work for so long, it's almost expected that we join in too.

Growing up, I'd hear neighbors chatting it up about how they hated their jobs. Boss was a jerk, pay was awful, and it was just something that everyone had to do, a part of life.

Every job I ever had, people were complaining and often completely baffled when I wasn’t adding to their conversations. Sometimes it ticked people off! They wanted to know what I was so happy about and how dare I find something about our miserable employer to appreciate.

I never let that get to me much; I just kept doing things to keep myself in an uplifted state.

A...

Trusting yourself is one of the most important things you can do, if not the most important.

Do you trust and believe that the things you desire in your life are possible?

Or do you make yourself wrong for wanting them and second guess yourself every chance you get?

If you spend much of your time asking the “Universe” for things that seem to never show up, you’re likely caught up in not trusting.

Usually you desire something, get super excited, then for various reasons you don’t trust and believe that you can have them.

That quickly stops those things from showing up, which can easily lead into a loop of not trusting yourself, because it didn’t work before, why would it work now?

Trusting yourself takes practice.

Many of us were taught to seek answers outside ourselves and try to fit into what others wanted us to be.

Making yourself wrong for thinking outside the box, and asking for more than those around you had ever dared to ask. Those things can stifle your abilit...

How do you feel when things are changing in your life?

Do you feel uncomfortable, worried, out of control?

Yes, I realize there are all sorts of changes we experience in our lives that are exciting and desired. But, often change can feel very unnerving to go through.

So what if you started to look at all the possibilities during these times of change, rather than focus on what could go wrong?

There’s an old quote that states, “Sometimes when things are falling apart they may be falling into place.”

Now I know that reading things like that can be annoying when you’re in the middle of a big life change and unsure how it will impact you.

But, take a moment and think back to other times when you were scared and thought maybe a life situation you were going through was the worst thing ever to happen. Then you realize it turned out better than you had ever imagined.

Sometimes you will become really uncomfortable before getting to the point of choosing something dif...