I hear it all the time. I can’t do this or I just can’t do that.

Heck I've even said it to myself more times than I care to count.

We tell ourselves that certain things don’t matter, we will get to it tomorrow, but it often never gets completed.

A common theme under all of this is perfectionism, which is actually a pretty interesting sabotage pattern. There is no perfection, in comparison to what or whom?

So what a great way for you to at least be right and succeed at failing! You can say, see I told you I couldn’t do it and here’s the proof!

One thing I’ve noticed with individuals who choose to perpetually make excuses is that they seem to be quite annoyed or shocked when other people are actually doing things.

Years ago a friend of mine would constantly have an ongoing list of things she was going to do, but when it came time to take any sort of action she had a never-ending catalog of excuses as to why she couldn’t do it.

She was so caught up in thought loops and stor...

What matters more than anything else?

That’s right, your health!

Yes, making sure you are healthy is absolutely by far the most important thing.

If you're not feeling well, you cannot function properly, and that affects every single area of your life.

What I find interesting is that so many people will run themselves ragged, skipping meals, not moving their bodies, not sleeping enough and then they are baffled as to why things aren't going very smoothly in their lives.

When you honor yourself and your body by taking the time to eat balanced meals, get enough uninterrupted sleep and maybe even go for a walk, you will be astounded at how much easier everything in your life becomes.

Think about it, you can't enjoy your loved ones if you're in pain, or grouchy from sleep deprivation.

I say this a lot, but you really must put yourself first.

If any of you are still feeling guilty about self-care, look at it this way, if you don't take good care of yourself, you could be sick,...

A few years ago a friend took me to a class, and I painted my first picture ever!

It was an incredible experience.

I was beaming and excited about the painting and the entire experience for days!

At first, I felt uptight and intimidated; I’d never done this before.

Many beautiful paintings were hanging everywhere, and I had no idea how I was going to make anything look half as good as those!

I realized so much about myself and life that day. Everyone was extremely friendly and calm, just having fun.

I allowed myself just to play and go along with whatever happened.

If I added too much of a color, I would simply adjust it by adding more water, less water, a different color whatever I felt guided to do.

I could feel the tension and judgment melting out of my body each time I would add more paint to the canvas.

I began to feel myself getting excited as a little child to the point I just kept a big grin on my face as I splashed paint around thinking of the endless possibil...

This week I want to talk about something that has been on my mind for a very long time, years. The idea of asking for help and all the “stuff” that brings up for people.

I’ve noticed many experiencing resistance, judgment, and guilt around asking for help.

Most of my life I felt tons of judgment towards myself for asking for any help. So I understand why people avoid asking others for help and how it could be viewed as a bad or disempowering thing.

But what if it's not a bad thing?

If you’re going through something and you require more info, ideas, a different perspective on things, just ask. If you were to speak up and ask, maybe things would flow so much easier.

Why stress yourself out spinning in circles trying to resolve something, when you could perhaps ask and have the situation shift, sometimes in an instant!

I find it funny that most of you wouldn’t hesitate to take your car to a mechanic, pay a restaurant to help you with cooking meals, or hire daycare to help with w...

We’ve all heard the old saying that it is better to give than receive. It does feel wonderful to give and help others, but how do we know when we’ve started to give too much? 

One of the first things you may notice is feeling drained.

Giving is one thing, but chronic over-giving is another. If giving just doesn’t feel right, that’s your first clue to make some adjustments.

Anytime I find myself feeling tired for many days, and I can’t trace it back to a lack of sleep, I look at my interactions with others.

I reassess whether I’ve allowed myself to give in a way that feels right or if I’ve let myself get wrapped up into all their needs and wants.

Once I identify some patterns with people that are apparently draining me, I take action and change it asap!

It used to bother me so much to set boundaries with people or tell them no I can’t do this or that, you know to take care of my needs first. But, I realized quickly, if I didn’t let them know, I’d feel physically ill, resentf...

In this world, there’s so much focus on our physical health, what we eat and drink and how often we exercise. Attention and an absolute importance are placed on emotional health and spirituality.

But, I rarely see mention of energetic self-care.

Since everything is energy, you may be wondering what that means exactly. To me energetic self-care means, what we are hanging onto and carrying around, and what are we putting out into the world.

A real question to ask yourself is, what types of energies am I emitting? Also, what kinds of energies am I allowing in my world?

Start paying attention to the kind of conversations you’re in. Notice any themes, common topics you find yourself talking about and focusing on.

Also, the types of tv shows or movies you’re watching. Often people think oh it's just a silly tv show. It doesn't bother me. But, yes it can impact your mood and energy fields a lot!

Ever noticed after watching a scary or dramatic movie you feel rather dark and heavy?...

There is so much focus on how others treat us and how what they are doing or saying makes us feel.

But actually, nobody can make us feel anything!

Focusing on them is an excellent way to take the attention away from how we treat ourselves.

So what are you saying to yourself?

Have you ever taken a moment to pay attention to the things you are thinking or saying about yourself?

Maybe you can take a moment right now and remember some of the thoughts going through your head for the past hour. Were any of them kind or uplifting in any way?

Have you thought even one nice thing about yourself the entire day?

If not, perhaps it is time to change all that.

To me, saying and thinking bad things about ourselves is a way of cursing.

When you realize how many thoughts you have each day and how many of those thoughts are negative and creating exactly what you don’t want, well that is a form of cursing yourself.

I seriously doubt most of us would let anyone talk to us the way we ca...

I love keeping busy, creating and moving forward in my life. But, sometimes all the busyness can cause me to feel overloaded! With all the responsibilities of each day you can feel like you’re being pulled in a hundred different directions at once.

There’s nothing wrong with being busy and getting things done. But you may find yourself rushing around on autopilot and not really choosing things that inspire you.

Now whenever I find myself rushing, I know I have to stop and slow down immediately! Even if I’m driving during peak traffic and everyone is rushing I slow down or stop.

Hurrying to answer emails, phone calls, just anytime I was doing things with that energy of I don’t have time.

This past week I kept hearing “slow down Althea, you’re making things difficult when they don’t need to be.”

After I heard that, I also became aware of how energy was moving in my body when I thought everything was a race.

I noticed that I was feeling energy lightly spinning upwards into m...