Have you ever met someone and it was immediately obvious that they were gonna be a lot to deal with?

You know the ones, lots of drama around them, constant problems.

Sure, they have many great qualities too, confident, smart, often go-getter types.

But, you are on alert because you already see how this person operates and you know what to expect.

This  relationship feels like being a flash fried frog.

You know you’re in scalding hot oil from the beginning.

You get splashed in the face with grease from the moment you met them so you weren’t really surprised when you got burnt, repeatedly.

Well I’d like to talk about another type of person.

The one who shows up as genuine, caring, and the opposite of the person mentioned above.

This relationship is like being a slow boiled frog (Side Note- no frogs were harmed in this story) They are sweet, caring, and way more calm than the first person.

They invite you in, listen to your problems.

They offer help, which makes you f...

Not everyone is trying to control you or keep you small.

Some people can see where you are making not great choices and they have the courage to speak up and share that with you.

I’ve seen too many social media posts making generalized statements.

Assuming that everyone is making great choices and knows what is healthy or right for them. 

That friends, family or anyone who doesn’t agree with their choice is wrong and just jealous and trying to stop their master plan of greatness.

Encouraging you to be impulsive and live life on your terms.

Great, do that but don’t be surprised if things often blow up in your face.

Unhealthy patterns can give you a rush and a high, those signs aren’t necessarily an accurate indication that you’re on the “right path".

And feeling uncomfortable or afraid doesn't always mean you’re on the wrong path.

If you want real positive lasting change in your life you have to take responsibility for your choices.

Drop the excuses, stop victimizing y...

Last year I made the choice to slow down.

I cut back on work and made healing from trauma and regulating my nervous system top priority.

A few years ago I had a bizarre, very painful physical accident that caused me to see many things in a whole new light.

I had prided myself on always being strong.

Having lots of love, kindness, and support to give.

Even as my body was in so much pain and my nervous system was on high alert constantly. I kept working long hours and pushing myself to do more.

Last year I just couldn’t keep pushing anymore.

More accurately, I didn’t want to, so I didn’t. I felt every fiber of my being going into complete refusal to continue on as I had been.

You know how you get so used to being a certain way that you don’t even notice, until you can’t keep going? 

I hit that wall.

And could finally see how I had been operating and was prolonging my healing from this physical ailment. 

It was a huge awareness of how I had unknowingly put everyone else...

I don’t think I’ve ever really talked about my healing experiences in much detail.

But, I wanted to share a few things that would have been great to know earlier on in my journey.

I am grateful to be aware of these things now and I think you might benefit from them too.

4 things I wish I knew when I started energy healing:

1.)There’s nothing wrong with me- I am not flawed and need to be fixed.

I wish I’d known much sooner to look at “healing” from the perspective that I am simply choosing to be different and feel different.

That there’s nothing wrong with any version of me. That I am selecting how I want to experience life each moment.

This simple shift has allowed me to have way more fun doing energy clearings. And ease with changing things in my life.

2.) I don’t have to change it all in one clearing- Years ago I used to get so angry when something I had cleared popped back up again. How in the heck?!

I took the time to release all the energy and triggers around a cert...

Do you try to be all things to all people? Only to be hit with the realization that maybe nobody actually knows you, and maybe you don’t even like who you’re being.

If you said yes, you’re probably experiencing some common childhood survival tactics of being a chameleon, entertaining and people pleasing.

Now there’s nothing wrong with being fun, entertaining, and making others laugh. It’s just good to be aware if you are laughing or making others laugh as a habit to keep you safe from uncomfortable feelings.

Once you’re aware you can decide to choose other ways of experiencing life.

Comedy, lightness and distractions have their place and can be very helpful sometimes.

But, at what point do you give yourself permission to express yourself honestly outside of fun or light emotions?

Maybe you've noticed, life isn’t always fun. And it can be very draining to feel you must always be light, bright and feel good all the time.

If you stub stub toe, you’re not going to feel great ab...

Do you ever wonder why life seems like a series of struggles, disappointments, and losses?

Seriously though, why do we seem to go through so many trials and tribulations?

I’ve asked myself similar questions throughout my life and have seen some common reasons.

We believe life is about suffering

Vows of punishment & suffering

Family patterns of limitations, loss, disappointments, fears

Now do I think that if you’re suffering it means you sat down and did some ritual to declare you shall suffer for eternity?

Not necessarily but I have seen stranger things come up in someone's energy.

Often we pick up on the patterns and limitations of those around us as children and we naturally match those habits as a form of safety and fitting in.

Some of this is passed down energetically and some is seen and heard directly. 

If we notice our friends and family are continuously at a certain level of happiness, success etc.

If we want to fit in, be loved and feel safe, we will unconscio...

When was the last time you felt truly energized?

If you have gotten accustomed to feeling tired most of the time or using caffeine to get through the day.

It might be time to do an assessment of your sleep habits.

Yes, how you’re spending your waking hours will definitely impact your energy levels but getting good sleep regularly is a common problem that many ignore.

From sleep apnea to hormonal imbalances, sleeping well has become a thing that only puppies get enough of.

I generally sleep very well, but a few weeks ago I had a few very high stress days and could really feel my cortisol and adrenaline was pumping out excessively.

There was one night in particular that I did NOT want to sleep deeply.

There was a fire nearby and although I was safe my body was still on high alert in case I needed to act quickly.

The idea is not to force yourself to relax, especially if there is good reason to be on high alert.

But, when the body is stuck in chronic hypervigilance, whether...

I struggled for years with negative thoughts.

There were times I felt like my own mind was attacking me in a nonstop barrage of terrible thoughts.

Nothing in particular was happening to even justify the thoughts, most of the time, but they just kept coming.

It took years for me to realize that I am super aware and that many thoughts were other people’s and most importantly potential realities and timelines I was aware of.

I remember at one point I would go for daily walks around the block and it took almost all my focus to keep flipping each negative thought.

If I let my mind wander for a second there was another shit thought.

Obviously I didn’t enjoy my walks very much because at the time I believed I had to address and change every unwanted thought I had!

Have you tried that method too?!

It was insane, and thankfully I realized pretty quickly that I don’t have to spend my entire life analyzing, chopping, and reconfiguring each thought I’m aware of.

I want to point out...

When I was a kid I loved to clean and organize.

I was so sensitive to energy that I loved the feeling of moving things around and the satisfaction of seeing a beautifully transformed space.

Having my room decorated in the way I liked helped me to feel safe and in control, especially when I felt many things were out of my control.

Many years later I realized that our space is a direct reflection of our state of being. And that a part of me, even as a kid, was wise enough to motivate me to clean and adjust my space as a way to shift my states of consciousness. 

The decorations and the meaningful items you keep in your space are very impactful to your mood, for good or bad, even if you don’t realize it.

So if you find yourself feeling stuck or in a bad mood you can shift your mood quickly by cleaning or moving things around.

Even if you don’t like to clean or you have someone else clean your home. You can still create quick powerful shifts by cleaning out a drawer or moving things f...

Do you feel your personal money paradigm shifting?

Maybe you notice that money isn’t showing up the same ways it used to.

Not necessarily lack of money, but pushing, forcing, and hard work aren’t producing the same predictable results like in the past. 

Whatever you believe to be true your brain will look for evidence to keep showing you that you are correct about whatever you believe.

A perfect example is how many people operate from the idea of hard work.

It is deeply ingrained in many people and they often don’t question it.

Your parents worked hard, and perhaps became successful and your lineage is full of hard workers.

You can’t simply betray this pattern of struggling and working hard, can you?

Sure you can, and how many people do you know who work very hard but have little to show for it?

I’ve known quite a few. 

There’s a strange guilt and resistance that comes up around receiving money with more ease.

You may assume others will be jealous, mad, and that you...