The Hard Way

Have you ever known someone who struggles in basically every area of their life?

No matter what they do they can’t seem to catch a break. They work super hard and try to be optimistic, yet things seem to stay the same or get worse for them.

It can often be difficult to know what to say to be encouraging or supportive when outwardly it looks like they are doing "all the right '' things.

But, they aren't getting the results they want.

The person clearly has thought loops such as…

I keep working hard, but nothing is going right. Maybe I'm not working hard enough; I'll work harder, hmm but that won't work either since I've tried that before, ugh I suck! I have no idea what to do, nothing works for me!!

So with all those thoughts spinning, you’ll feel worse and worse focusing and activating more of what you don't want.

A vicious cycle. It's like getting caught on a crappy thought hamster wheel.

So what can you do about it?

First be aware when you’re focused on the unwanted, secondly don’t judge yourself (very important step) third, when you feel yourself getting caught in a crappy loop refocus on better thoughts asap!

When thought loops come up it always reminds me of the old story about a religious man caught in a flood.

He prays for God to save him. So a canoe, rowboat, and a helicopter all come to save him, and he dismisses them all saying God will save him.

Later the story goes, after the man drowned, that God had sent all those things to save him, yet he was thinking his opportunity to escape the flood was going to come in another form.

We often get it stuck in our heads that when we ask for help, it must come in one or 2 ways and if it doesn't we either reject it or don't recognize it at all! 

We all get stuck in loops sometimes, but I hope this story inspires you to look at things from a different perspective and you start to notice all the love, support and opportunities that are always there, but you couldn't see before.

Sending you so much love :-)