Are you truly willing to change?

You may have quickly said yes and thought that was a silly question.

But it is VERY possible that you may be trying to stay exactly the same but you want things in your life to be different. [It doesn’t work that way.]

The version of you that has the things you currently don’t have thinks, feels, and behaves differently than your current version.

Sometimes drastically different. You must “die to the old self” in order to embody the new state of being.

Dying sounds kinda drastic, but some states of being I’m sure we want to die, fall away and never come back.

I know a few times in life I have felt that way LOL! 

So what’s the answer?

How do you get the things you’ve been longing for?

CHOOSE.

Sounds so simple, because it is.

You’re just simply not choosing it.

Do you choose once?

Sometimes, but if you have a lot of resistance and momentum fighting against your new choice you will need to...

Unwanted thoughts happen.

Everyone has experienced unwanted or “negative” thoughts.

I prefer to call them unwanted to take the charge out of it.

If you look at something as negative that immediately puts up resistance and uses a lot of energy and focus to push against it. 

Instead, you can look at it as though there are infinite possibilities, realities, and thoughts available at any moment.

Because there are.

You are actually picking up on others' thoughts, feelings, and other energies all the time to varying degrees.

Thankfully there’s nothing you actually need to do with all of this information, most of the time.

Start practicing just letting those thoughts float through you or past you.

If you have a scary thought and tense up, take a deep breath and think, oh I’m so glad that’s not gonna happen, or that’s an interesting thought... and shake it off.

Stop the habit of trying to figure it out.

What does it mean, is everything ok? Oh...

Self love is a very popular topic, especially the last few years. As positive an idea as it seems, I find it's definitely a mixed bag.

Growing up, I was a chubby kid, but in my late teens and early twenties, I became morbidly obese. I endured sexual abuse at the age of 7, and that set the tone for the decline of my self-esteem.

Even as I’m writing this I realize I’m becoming super analytical and choking back the more creative side of me.

Another great example is that part of me still feels that I’m only loveable under certain conditions. Funny how those conditions change depending on who’s judging us.

The world grooms us to always put others first and that any excessive liking of yourself is frowned upon and you’re quickly labeled egotistical and selfish.

It is more acceptable and actually often encouraged to put ourselves down and pretend we are small and insecure. All because if we like ourselves that somehow really pisses others off.

As a...

Have you used my clearing audios? Whether you have or haven’t yet I’d like to share with you how to use the audios and some of my experiences while using them.

You can actually use them however you like.

Volume up/down, relaxed, active/resting with eyes closed.

Just not when driving or operating heavy machinery. 

I personally like to play them on low when I do other things.

But, I find it super helpful to set aside 10-15 min and allow myself to really relax, close my eyes and receive.

It can be addictive to just rush through while multitasking and not really paying attention.

That’s ok sometimes.

But I find it is a way that we avoid certain feelings/awareness that we have decided are wrong or uncomfortable.

Guess what; you are going to be uncomfortable when you are changing.

Discomfort is not a bad thing.

As you choose to think and BE differently than you’ve ever been before you may feel wonky, annoyed, and maybe not even quite sure how you...

Did you know that what you say is true is actually true for you?

And your mind will look for evidence to keep affirming whatever your point of view is.

So if you don’t like something it's a great idea to STOP stating it as a fact!

I have had people tell me about things that they hated and wanted to change and when I offered my insight they became defensive and said “But it's a FACT!” I can’t change this!

Like how dare I offer such a ludicrous idea that it could be changed.

Well… ask yourself if you want something to continue being a fact or not. You have the power to change it. 

However; if you are hell-bent on proving and declaring to the world it is a fact, then that is what you will get more of.

That thing you hate hardens into fact over and over again.

Where are you defending something as being a fact in your life?

Is it a relationship, a health issue, or maybe your current money reality?

What have you decided is factual and...

Recently I saw a youtube video where a woman was explaining how she responded to a very rude customer by simply saying “I do not receive that.” and walking away. 

It got me wondering how many things we get triggered by and feel the need to fight against. 

Would you just walk away? 

Or do you think you’d feel the need to defend or convince that person of your point of view? 

Obviously, our response depends on lots of things. If we are hungry, tired, or simply done with BS for the day.

But, taking the time to respond and not react can spare you a lot of discomfort and create a great habit of being selective about what you give your energy and attention to.

This reminds me of an old quote.

“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks.” 

~Winston Churchill

This world is full of potential distractions (barking dogs). Some of them can appear to be super important/urgent matters but...

Since I love art so much I thought I’d share a fun exercise that you can do to bring more healing and clarity to any area of your life.

Choose a topic, or body part and paint or draw what it looks and feels like for that body part or situation to be healthy, thriving exactly as you want it to be. 

For this example, I will choose a body part.

Let’s focus on the heart.

That area can be associated with heartbreak, betrayal, loss, self-protection, etc.

But it is also connected to love, joy, generosity, and all sorts of uplifting energies/emotions. 

You can start with a general heart shape and then just add whatever colors feel good for you in the moment.

By the time you feel your artwork is completed the heart shape might be totally covered and that is perfectly fine.

Have fun letting go.

Be as wild, free, and non-judgmental as you can in the moment.

If you’ve been holding a lot inside for a long time it can feel a bit awkward to open up. Give...

In the current hustle culture, it is easy to get swept up in trying to prove how hard you’ve worked by suffering and sacrifice.

As if it’s wrong to create from more ease.

This idea of sacrificing one thing to get another is very ingrained into society and you may feel wrong or bad not living that way when you see many friends and family pushing, proving, and struggling. 

Perhaps you have the very common fear of not wanting to stand out.

You may think if you're happier and have more ease people will notice and resent you for it.

Perhaps people were envious, spiteful, or jealous in the past.

If so, those experiences likely caused you to expect more of the same.

You likely started to shrink and hide as a protective mechanism. Or you became overly defensive knowing that people were going to have an attitude towards you at some point so you better toughen up!

But, keep in mind those things happened to an old version of you.

You don't have to keep thinking and...

Love is great but many things we call love are not great. You may have dreams of a beautiful romantic relationship but you’ve never actually seen anyone have that type of relationship.

You likely have seen people tolerating, desperately chasing, and trying to get someone to notice them. And even staying in miserable relationships just to avoid being alone. 

Romantic relationships can seem complicated and hopeless.

But, what if you take all the attention/pressure off the other person and redirect your focus to yourself?

No matter how many times I suggest this, people look confused and often start checking out mentally.

Truth is it's NEVER about the other person. Yeah, we’ve all heard the stories it's them not you, they need to grow up, work on themselves, etc. but I find that putting it on the other person is a handy cop-out for not really looking at your own content that is creating every experience in your life.

The first step to doing this is to drop the...