Are you ready to take back your power to choose?

We all make countless choices every day.

What to wear, what to eat and drink, and even where we will focus our thoughts and attention.

Usually, we think it's easy to choose what foods to eat or the types of clothing we will wear, but not the thoughts we think.

That somehow we are victims of our thoughts and that they just bounce around from one thing to another without our input.

This couldn’t be further from the truth.

Many of us are taught that life just happens to us.

That we are either lucky or not so lucky. We are either born into the right family in a good neighborhood or not. And If you didn’t happen to get blessed with the right family, great looks etc, you can still maybe change your life a little bit if you work really really hard.

But all of those are just beliefs and beliefs can be changed.

You just have to choose something different. How many of you have had thoughts like, Oh that’s just how it is i...

Are you a good friend?

How about being a good spouse, parent, employee, etc.

Are you Good?

Did you feel some judgment and confusion that came up with that?

What if the only person you must please is YOU!?

Although it can be uncomfortable to acknowledge. All relationships really are about you.

And being more aware of how you treat yourself and expect to be treated by others.

So let’s talk a bit about how our relationships and roles change as we move into an often unknown territory of choosing what’s right for us.

As you commit to making changes in certain areas of your life, you will see that not everyone will be happy or supportive.

Because of this, many will choose to stay where they are, never venturing past the point where others start to get pissed off at them. Sometimes the people you thought you could depend on the most will disappear, say discouraging words, and disappoint you.

It might feel like things are breaking down and that you perhaps had lost your freak...

I’m taking time this week to do some soul searching.

This is actually something I like to do every few months.

Noticing what is working and not working in my business and personal life.

Making sure that I am taking enough time to do things I enjoy and staying inspired to share with others how to more consciously create their lives.

To start, I sit down with all my lists, personal and professional,

I’m a big list maker.

I have stacks of notebooks scattered around everywhere!!

I like to see things written out in front of me. I personally find it easier to stay focused having it written down and find that it's very satisfying to mark things as complete.

Please use whatever methods work for you to help keep track of your progress and hold you accountable.

So once I have my lists open I simply feel into the things and see if they still resonate with me or not.

If I don’t feel interested or in alignment with the projects or ideas I will either put them on another ...

Have you ever tried to force yourself to stay in a good mood?

 Feels pretty awful huh? 

With all the talk of being positive, it can come across that we should be aiming for an exuberant mood shooting sunshine out of all our orifices all day and night. 

To be in a fantastic mood all the time is very unrealistic and sets us up for feeling like failures. Our moods and vibrations naturally fluctuate all the time. 

So please be easy on yourself and realize that you do not have to be “perfect” happy or smiling all the time in order to have a fabulous life. 

Actually being easy on yourself and accepting that sometimes you’ll be in a crappy mood will allow you to get out of the lower vibrations even faster :-)

We each have a vibrational set point that we don’t go very far above or below. 

We tend to have similar thoughts, feelings and focus on the same things day after day. Those thoughts are in the general range of our current set point. 

But we can change our set point whenever we ch...

Let’s talk about your amazing body!

I know some of you probably thought, what the hell is she talking about?

My body isn’t amazing. It's too big here, too little there, pain in this area; all sorts of things wrong with it.

Ok, now that we got the body shaming out of the way; can you find one thing you like about your body?

Just one. It could be your eyes, you have great toes or the way your nose crinkles when you smile!  

If you found it difficult to find anything about your body you like, you’re not alone.

This world teaches us to hate our bodies, look for things wrong with it and compare it to others.

I used to think something was wrong with me because I had pores on my face but the people in the magazines did not. Until I realized they were heavily made up and photo-shopped to look that way!

We are constantly bombarded with images of bodies that are the example of what we're supposed to look like.

Rather than look to others for validation, have you ever asked your bod...

In last week's blog I mentioned taking a look at ways you can appreciate yourself.

So now that you've done that, and even if you haven't, let's look at ways we can spread the appreciation and gratitude to those around us.

• Donating tangible objects,
• our time/expertise and
• simply sending kind thoughts towards someone

are all fantastic ways to pay it forward.

Look around your home or office.

Do you notice some things that you're done with?

Perhaps you loved them at one time but they just aren't a reflection of what you want around your space any longer.

Do you realize that even if you are done with the painting, book, clothing item, etc; that it could be exactly what someone else is dreaming of having?!

Be honest with yourself and let go of items that you never use or feel obligated to keep because someone gave it to you, or you spent a lot of money on it.

Allow someone else to truly enjoy the item instead. When you release them it opens space for things ...

How do you feel when given a compliment?

Do you receive it quickly or directly and say "Thank You"?

Or perhaps you deflect it.

Do you then feel obligated to compliment them back or even finding fault with whatever you were complimented?

These are all signs that your self-talk could likely use a bit of adjusting.

Have you ever stopped to take notice of how you’re thinking about yourself?

What you say out loud is essential too, but all those thoughts that float through your head unspoken each day are having a significant impact on your self-image AND your life.

Now there are always exceptions to the rules, but you may have noticed negative things you think about yourself, well, you’d never tolerate another person speaking to you in that manner.

So why do you allow yourself to put you down?

I’m inviting you to let go of all the crappy self-talk you’re involved in each day.

It's certainly your choice, no need to stop tearing yourself down, but if you choose to stop it ...