When was the last time you felt angry?

Did you express it by blowing up and yelling, stuffing it down, or maybe you chose to take a deep breath and release it?

Those are just a few of the most common ways people usually deal with anger and any other uncomfortable emotion.

I’ll share some of my favorite ways to process anger further down.

I find that anger gets a bad rap, especially if it's expressed.

As a girl it was mostly encouraged for me to be soft, quiet and agreeable, no matter what.

That wasn’t gonna work for me LOL!

I’ve always been really good at expressing my feelings, even if they are very intense.

And I did get judged, criticized, and people sometimes had no idea what to think of me.

Have you experienced that too?

If so, be kind to yourself.

We live in a world that mostly encourages suppressing and full blown avoidance of many feelings. 

Yes, there were times I exploded, probably not the best thing.

But I realized those explosions of anger happened w...

I sat down to write about family and how our expectations of them determines how they show up in our world.

Then suddenly I was distracted and caught off guard by seeing a ghost in my living room!

It's very normal for me to see ghosts and to communicate with those that have passed on, I’ve been doing that since I was a child…

However; the way this spirit showed up was very different than I had experienced before and I had to stop and go Wooah wtf was that?! LOL!

This experience got me thinking about different ways we are haunted by family and ancestral programming, whether we like it or not. Which contributes to our expectations of family members.

Not all beliefs or experiences are negative but many of the things passed down through families can definitely impact us in undesirable ways.

Science has proven that we all can carry memories from our ancestors at least 12-15 generations back!

Now before you start feeling annoyed and hopeless; I’ve got good news!

You CAN release t...

Are you stuck in a sad story?

Do you find that you feel an urge to continuously talk about a certain negative event?

We all have unpleasant experiences and some can be traumatic and take a moment to move past.

But, you may notice at times you are overindulging in an unpleasant story/memory.

There is a big difference between searching for a different perspective/healing of something and getting value out of rehashing it.

Here are 4 common patterns I see with overindulging in unhappy stories: 

1.  You get attention- There’s nothing wrong with attention. But if you grew up with neglect(that’s just one example) you may find yourself unconsciously craving attention, even if it comes from drama and unpleasant experiences.
2.   A distraction/excuse- To not choose something different. This is often a way we avoid responsibility for creating our lives. Yes, even the so-called “bad stuff” But, you can choose something entirely different at any moment.
3.  Approval- Connecting to others thro...

Have you noticed you don’t enjoy being around people as much as you used to?

I’ve had numerous clients come to me recently feeling that way.

They were judging themselves and thinking they should want to be more sociable and basically do the exact same things that they always have.

You might be concerned that something is wrong with you too.

Rest assured there’s nothing wrong with you!

We all need time alone to reboot periodically.

But, what if this feeling of wanting to be alone has been going on for an extended time frame? Maybe you’re naturally more of an introvert or….

You could be in The Hermit Phase.

The Hermit phase is where you go more inward to reflect and get in touch with who you are but more importantly who you want to be now.

This phase can happen at any time in your life and usually happens more than once.

Old versions of you, people and things are falling away….let them.

It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re completely done with certain people or things.

There are countless articles and books written about burnout.

The causes, how long it lasts, and what supplementation and lifestyle changes are recommended.

You will find some great information and I do believe that certain supplements are helpful.

But, if you’re feeling burnt out or on the verge of exhaustion it's a great opportunity to do some deeper assessments of your life.

This is probably not the time to keep pushing or “try to get more energy” just to set yourself up for possibly bigger issues in the future.

You may be thinking something is wrong with you.

Why can’t you get as much done as others? You should be able to do more as you constantly push against your body’s natural need for rest, relaxation and leisure.

First of all, comparing yourself to others is really the quickest path to misery.

Secondly, you really have no idea what is going on with the people who appear to be full of energy, super productive, and happy.

Those people could be secretly dealin...

Do you notice that you apologize often?

Maybe you say sorry for how someone else feels or if a friend had a negative experience, even if you weren’t involved in the situation.

These habits of over-apologizing are pretty obvious but what about the sneaky ways you are apologizing for being?

Have you ever received really great feedback on something you created but immediately felt a twinge of guilt and worry?

Suddenly you’re contracting and feeling like you’ve done something bad. Wondering who do you think you are to enjoy yourself and to be noticed for your talents?

The world gives us a lot of contradicting information.

Be successful and stand out!

No!

Hide; be small and safe!

And depending upon your childhood experiences/programming you will decide if it is a good or bad thing to be seen and acknowledged for being YOU.

Here a just a few signs you’re apologizing for your awesomeness:

*Deflecting compliments

*Hiding talents from others

*Hiding or downplaying any sort of...

What sort of images does the word solitude bring up for you?

Maybe dark, sad, lonely.

Or perhaps it was more peaceful, content and something you’re craving more of.

Although solitude can be seen as isolation and misconstrued as a bad or unwanted thing.

People have been seeking out solitude since ancient times.

Have you ever wondered why?

And have you ever thought of why you may actually avoid it?

Let’s start with why we might avoid solitude.

The number one habit that I see people choosing over the years is running away from themselves.

You're not going to allow yourself to have much quiet or solitude when you're trying to run away from yourself.

So why exactly would you want to run away from yourself?

Often because you’re trying to avoid something.

It could be feelings, your awareness of other people's feelings and you may even be aware of other things beyond words.

But there are many amazing benefits of regularly taking some time to be with yourself.

5 Benefit...

Are you truly willing to change?

You may have quickly said yes and thought that was a silly question.

But it is VERY possible that you may be trying to stay exactly the same but you want things in your life to be different. [It doesn’t work that way.]

The version of you that has the things you currently don’t have thinks, feels, and behaves differently than your current version.

Sometimes drastically different. You must “die to the old self” in order to embody the new state of being.

Dying sounds kinda drastic, but some states of being I’m sure we want to die, fall away and never come back.

I know a few times in life I have felt that way LOL! 

So what’s the answer?

How do you get the things you’ve been longing for?

CHOOSE.

Sounds so simple, because it is.

You’re just simply not choosing it.

Do you choose once?

Sometimes, but if you have a lot of resistance and momentum fighting against your new choice you will need to choose repeatedly and stay consistent in the...

Unwanted thoughts happen.

Everyone has experienced unwanted or “negative” thoughts.

I prefer to call them unwanted to take the charge out of it.

If you look at something as negative that immediately puts up resistance and uses a lot of energy and focus to push against it. 

Instead, you can look at it as though there are infinite possibilities, realities, and thoughts available at any moment.

Because there are.

You are actually picking up on others' thoughts, feelings, and other energies all the time to varying degrees.

Thankfully there’s nothing you actually need to do with all of this information, most of the time.

Start practicing just letting those thoughts float through you or past you.

If you have a scary thought and tense up, take a deep breath and think, oh I’m so glad that’s not gonna happen, or that’s an interesting thought... and shake it off.

Stop the habit of trying to figure it out.

What does it mean, is everything ok? Oh no, I knew something bad was goi...

Self love is a very popular topic, especially the last few years. As positive an idea as it seems, I find it's definitely a mixed bag.

Growing up, I was a chubby kid, but in my late teens and early twenties, I became morbidly obese. I endured sexual abuse at the age of 7, and that set the tone for the decline of my self-esteem.

Even as I’m writing this I realize I’m becoming super analytical and choking back the more creative side of me.

Another great example is that part of me still feels that I’m only loveable under certain conditions. Funny how those conditions change depending on who’s judging us.

The world grooms us to always put others first and that any excessive liking of yourself is frowned upon and you’re quickly labeled egotistical and selfish.

It is more acceptable and actually often encouraged to put ourselves down and pretend we are small and insecure. All because if we like ourselves that somehow really pisses others off.

As a woman, I got the message loud an...