We’ve all heard the old saying that it is better to give than receive.It does feel wonderful to give and help others, but how do we know when we’ve started to allow others to take from us? One of the first things you may notice is feeling drained. Giving is one thing, someone consistently taking from you is another, and it only doesn’t feel right, that’s your first clue.
Anytime I find myself feeling tired for many days, and I can’t trace it back to a lack of sleep, I look at my interactions with others. I reassess whether I’ve allowed myself to give in a way that feels right or if I’ve let others rope me into all their needs and wants. Once I identify some patterns with people that are apparently draining me, I take action and change it asap!
It used to bother me so much to set boundaries with people or tell then no I can’t do this or that, you know to take care of my needs first. But, I realized quickly, if I didn’t let them know I’d feel physically ill, resentful and things in my life would just become more challenging all around. Each time I stepped up and let others know I needed a break and didn’t fear them being disappointed or mad at me, it became easier to speak up as soon as I noticed an imbalance in the giving/ taking energies.
I know we are all busy with our lives and may feel like we don’t have time for so many things, but I encourage you to take a few moments and think about the people in your life and what they contribute to you and your world. Do you have people who only call or text when they need something? They don’t even bother to ask you how you are, mostly because they don’t care, it’s all about them and what they have going on. How about those who get annoyed when you don’t do exactly what they want, and when…who needs that?! Not me !!
Some people are just utterly toxic. Causing all kinds of chaos and drama wherever they go. You’’re not going to change them, don’t even try. Just realize that is what they are creating and ask yourself if you want that in your world. The more you open your eyes and see who the negative takers in your life are you will be able to let them go quickly! Making room for positive, genuinely, supportive and uplifting people in your life.
I hope you all have a fantastic week making space for more things you truly enjoy :-)