Expectations of Family

I sat down to write about family and how our expectations of them determines how they show up in our world.

Then suddenly I was distracted and caught off guard by seeing a ghost in my living room!

It's very normal for me to see ghosts and to communicate with those that have passed on, I’ve been doing that since I was a child…

However; the way this spirit showed up was very different than I had experienced before and I had to stop and go Wooah wtf was that?! LOL!

This experience got me thinking about different ways we are haunted by family and ancestral programming, whether we like it or not. Which contributes to our expectations of family members.

Not all beliefs or experiences are negative but many of the things passed down through families can definitely impact us in undesirable ways.

Science has proven that we all can carry memories from our ancestors at least 12-15 generations back!

Now before you start feeling annoyed and hopeless; I’ve got good news!

You CAN release these patterns and not take them on as your own.

And thankfully you don’t have to dig around spending years analyzing and looking for problems.

But, it is going to require you to take a little bit of time to identify YOUR dominant assumptions about your parents and then the family as a whole unit.

This is primarily focused on blood relatives: However you can use the same exercise to clear around an adoptive family too.

How to…

Step 1. Identify dominant family stories. 

You might have some ideas immediately or you can separate them into categories.

Family patterns around health, money, relationships, career etc.

You can create a separate list for your mom and dad or whoever raised you.

As each adult will have a different set of stories and patterns that you could carry information from.

Step 2. Decide to release the patterns.

This part is important.

Do you truly want to let this go?

You may not want to change it at this moment. Be honest if your answer is no.

Are you afraid of being different? Letting your family down? Something else?

Get clear on what’s driving your current choice.

If you are ready to shift the patterns: Go to step 3! 

Step 3. Clear & Disentangle.

Take a deep breath and imagine your DNA, a picture of your family, anything that represents the current patterns and limitations. (btw you can’t do this wrong, don’t overthink it)

You can simply think: I am releasing all old family memories and patterns that are hindering me in any way now.

Then just imagine whatever you visualize is shifting and changing.

Allow it to be easy.

You may see colors, you may feel things.

However it shows up for you is perfect and KNOW that it is working.

Stay relaxed and in the receptive mode until you sense the process is complete. 

Go back through the exercise as often as you like.

You may notice you feel lighter and more peaceful afterwards.

And you’ll feel increasingly inspired and optimistic as you become more clear about who you choose to be outside of any family entanglements.

If you would like more help in shifting family patterns I have an audio Family Clearing and Harmonizing!

Enjoy!