Expecting Them to Be Your Source of Everything

As a young girl I got the message that I was supposed to seek love and approval from outside of myself.

Sure, I was encouraged to be somewhat strong and independent, but not too much, or that would upset others. That my true worth came from others accepting me.

Well obviously that idea made me want to barf and I immediately realized something was VERY off with that way of operating. 

That way of living just wasn’t going to work for me.

I wasn’t sure exactly how I was going to navigate this world but I knew I wasn’t going to let others control me.

I spent years feeling like I constantly had to fight to be myself in a world where everything was telling me to be something else. From magazines, to television, school, and even church telling me something was wrong with me!l 

Maybe you got a similar message that something is not quite right with you and that someone else knows better. Their way of dressing is better, speaking, beliefs etc is somehow superior to yours.

That all feels like shit, because it's not true!

Of course you care what others think of you, maybe not every person.

But, it’s totally normal to want to be liked and accepted.

How this gets twisted is thinking that your value comes from anything outside of you. 

If you want someone to see you in a certain way or validate you; and if they don’t, you feel empty or not good enough.

From that space are you validating and giving yourself what you want?

No, you’ve completely given the power to dictate your mood and how you see yourself in the hands of someone else. And that is why it feels so terrible, you started off seeking something that you weren’t even giving to yourself!

You felt you lacked something and had to earn the ability to have it from another.

And then you hope and wish and wonder if they like you, if they think you’re smart, pretty, funny etc…

This way of doing things sets you up for lots of disappointment.

Loads of resentment can build up as you are constantly chasing another person to make you feel good. So when they don't say the right thing at the right time, or look at you funny your emotions will be all over the place.

You must give yourself what you are seeking from them. And then you can assume and more easily receive all the love, kindness and attention you’ve been craving.

Everything in your reality is reflecting back your dominant assumptions.

So if you don’t even know that you are amazing and you’re always doubting yourself. That is what will be predominately reflected back to you in your reality. Hot and cold behavior, disappointment, and confusion because that is what is going on within yourself at a deeper level.

Stop focusing on what others think of you and choose to build yourself up and know that you are an amazing valuable person.

Needing nothing is a very attractive and relaxing space to embody. 

What you think of yourself is the most important thing, remember to think something good!

Give these a try!

It is safe to be myself

I am loved and appreciated

I have healthy fulfilling relationships

I love & accept myself just as I am

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