The Tale of the Slow Boiled Frog

Have you ever met someone and it was immediately obvious that they were gonna be a lot to deal with?

You know the ones, lots of drama around them, constant problems.

Sure, they have many great qualities too, confident, smart, often go-getter types.

But, you are on alert because you already see how this person operates and you know what to expect.

This  relationship feels like being a flash fried frog.

You know you’re in scalding hot oil from the beginning.

You get splashed in the face with grease from the moment you met them so you weren’t really surprised when you got burnt, repeatedly.

Well I’d like to talk about another type of person.

The one who shows up as genuine, caring, and the opposite of the person mentioned above.

This relationship is like being a slow boiled frog (Side Note- no frogs were harmed in this story) They are sweet, caring, and way more calm than the first person.

They invite you in, listen to your problems.

They offer help, which makes you feel warm and snuggly.

You finally feel like you can relax a bit after being around someone so fast and with non stop drama.

Then it happens one day.

This eerie awareness that you don’t feel so good.

You’re tired and sick more of the time. Not super sick, but enough to notice that something isn’t right.

It's so subtle that you missed it at first.

Maybe you didn’t want to know.

Could it be this relationship?

No way, they’re so calm, nice, and quiet. 

Then I remembered something profound a friend had told me years ago.

She said that sometimes people give the illusion that they are giving you a lot but they are actually taking a lot from you.

Good to know, since I tend to look for the best in people and have been disappointed more than a few times. And you need to be aware when something is off, so you can take care of yourself by making the necessary changes. 

How had I become the frog in the pot of boiling water?!

Well, because it wasn’t boiling when I got in.

It was just a pot of water sitting on a stove that was about to light my ass up slowly.

I wanted so badly to be a good friend and assumed this person wanted the best for me too, that I ignored many red flags.

Notice I didn’t say I missed.

I ignored them. 

Hindsight is 20/20 and when you’re in it you just can’t see clearly.

Especially when there are lots of confusing energies swirling around.

Its’ wild how many times I see patterns of unspoken agreements hooking us into other people and dynamics that are so unhealthy.

This particular relationship was so unhealthy for me that many years later I still have to clear a few remnants of the sh*t storm I endured. 

Although the experience was very hurtful, in many ways.

I’m happy that I am able to help you navigate and get out of similar situations.

If you find yourself struggling with a current, or past situation where you felt used, abused, confused, and discarded.

Check out my Release, promises, oaths & vows clearing audio so you can avoid being the cooked frog in any relationship :-)

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