Have you ever felt energetically entangled with someone?

That even though you know the dynamic with them isn’t great you feel enmeshed for some reason beyond logic.

This can happen because of family patterns you grew up with. But I have personally found that there’s often much more to it than that.

Years ago I experienced this uncomfortable pattern within a friendship.

Yes, I am kind and always look for the best in others, but this relationship was repeatedly draining and I found myself not being able to break free or make necessary changes to the dynamic.

It was mind boggling since I know all about energy entanglements and had been clearing them for years.

I did so much self reflecting, cleared numerous angles of the relationship.

Yet, I still felt stuck, unclear, and exhausted. 

There was a strange energy of guilt and duty, like I owed this person for something.

Where it would normally be easy to say no and simply walk away, I just couldn’t.

Finally after months of ...

How do you feel when given a compliment?

Do you receive it quickly or directly and say "Thank You"?

Or perhaps you deflect it.

Do you then feel obligated to compliment them back or even finding fault with whatever you were complimented?

These are all signs that your self-talk could likely use a bit of adjusting.

Have you ever stopped to take notice of how you’re thinking about yourself?

What you say out loud is essential too, but all those thoughts that float through your head unspoken each day are having a significant impact on your self-image AND your life.

Now there are always exceptions to the rules, but you may have noticed negative things you think about yourself, well, you’d never tolerate another person speaking to you in that manner.

So why do you allow yourself to put you down?

I’m inviting you to let go of all the crappy self-talk you’re involved in each day.

It's certainly your choice, no need to stop tearing yourself down, but if you choose to stop it ...

I know you’ve probably heard it a million times that you are the only one who can stop you.

But how exactly are you stopping you?

Looking back over your life I’m sure you did go through hard times; you didn’t make them up, they happened. And sometimes we feel if certain things hadn’t happened our lives would be entirely different.

It’s funny how that idea could be used against us, by thinking our lives would be SO much better if such and such hadn’t happened.

It just keeps us stuck if we look at things that way.

Let’s take a look at some ways to let these old stories go finally.

I say this from my own life experience and witnessing numerous clients, friends, and family. If you need to feel validated or you’re holding onto resentment from a past unpleasant experience; you are making yourself a victim.

People don’t often like the word "victim, " but it's true.

We sometimes think holding onto anger or pain hurts the other person or it will teach them a lesson.

But it inde...

In this world, there’s so much focus on our physical health, what we eat and drink and how often we exercise. Attention and an absolute importance are placed on emotional health and spirituality.

But, I rarely see mention of energetic self-care.

Since everything is energy, you may be wondering what that means exactly. To me energetic self-care means, what we are hanging onto and carrying around, and what are we putting out into the world.

A real question to ask yourself is, what types of energies am I emitting? Also, what kinds of energies am I allowing in my world?

Start paying attention to the kind of conversations you’re in. Notice any themes, common topics you find yourself talking about and focusing on.

Also, the types of tv shows or movies you’re watching. Often people think oh it's just a silly tv show. It doesn't bother me. But, yes it can impact your mood and energy fields a lot!

Ever noticed after watching a scary or dramatic movie you feel rather dark and heavy?...