I know you’ve probably heard it a million times that you are the only one who can stop you. But how exactly are you stopping you? Looking back over your life I’m sure you did go through hard times; you didn’t make them up, they happened. And sometimes we feel if certain things hadn’t happened our lives would be entirely different. It’s funny how that idea could be used against us, by thinking our lives would be SO much better if such and such hadn’t happened. It just keeps us stuck if we look at things that way. Let’s take a look at some ways to let these old stories go finally.
I say this from my own life experience and witnessing numerous clients, friends, and family. If you need to feel validated or you’re holding onto resentment from a past unpleasant experience; you are making yourself a victim. People don’t often like the word "victim, " but it's true. We sometimes think holding onto anger or pain hurts the other person or it will teach them a lesson. But it indeed only keeps us distracted and stuck in stories that aren't helping us create our life the way we truly want it to be. And these old stories could be things like you didn’t get a particular job, you got cut from a sports team, so now you think you suck at everything. A crappy relationship, times you couldn’t make a sale. Just anywhere you are using old stories to validate why you are where you are and why you can’t get to where you’d like to be. Are you ready to stop doing that now?
Realize when you are in a story, don’t beat up on yourself or make yourself wrong when you notice you’re in it. Merely realize you’re focusing on what happened in the past and bringing that into the now. At that moment you have the choice to create your future with that story again or choose something entirely different. We are not victims of our lives or our past stories. We are shaping and continue building our lives. We have to be more aware of what we are creating, without making ourselves wrong for it.
This week I'd like you to write down 2 or 3 stories that you still allow to control you and hold you back. You don’t need to go into details about how or why just admit they even affect you. Then commit to yourself that you will from this moment forward stop allowing your life and identity to be designed based on an old limiting story. As always have fun with all of this!