I sat down to write about family and how our expectations of them determines how they show up in our world.

Then suddenly I was distracted and caught off guard by seeing a ghost in my living room!

It's very normal for me to see ghosts and to communicate with those that have passed on, I’ve been doing that since I was a child…

However; the way this spirit showed up was very different than I had experienced before and I had to stop and go Wooah wtf was that?! LOL!

This experience got me thinking about different ways we are haunted by family and ancestral programming, whether we like it or not. Which contributes to our expectations of family members.

Not all beliefs or experiences are negative but many of the things passed down through families can definitely impact us in undesirable ways.

Science has proven that we all can carry memories from our ancestors at least 12-15 generations back!

Now before you start feeling annoyed and hopeless; I’ve got good news!...

How do you feel when given a compliment?

Do you receive it quickly or directly and say "Thank You"?

Or perhaps you deflect it.

Do you then feel obligated to compliment them back or even finding fault with whatever you were complimented?

These are all signs that your self-talk could likely use a bit of adjusting.

Have you ever stopped to take notice of how you’re thinking about yourself?

What you say out loud is essential too, but all those thoughts that float through your head unspoken each day are having a significant impact on your self-image AND your life.

Now there are always exceptions to the rules, but you may have noticed negative things you think about yourself, well, you’d never tolerate another person speaking to you in that manner.

So why do you allow yourself to put you down?

I’m inviting you to let go of all the crappy self-talk you’re involved in each day.

It's certainly your choice, no need to stop tearing yourself down, but if...

Ok now that your home is completely empty except for a chair, one outfit and your bed...just kidding LOL!

But seriously, I hope you’ve had fun letting go of some things that were taking up space that you really didn’t like or need. And if you are still in the process of clearing clutter, that’s wonderful too!

I felt it was important to mention that you don’t need to fill up every empty space in your home. Or, to even replace all the things you got rid of with new things, even if you love them.

Yes, surround yourself with things you love, but not necessarily that you gave away 5 shirts you hated now you must buy 5 shirts you love.

Our space can get cluttered with things we love too!

We are really just going for balance. Energy moves much smoother when there isn’t so much stuff. And we all want things to move easier and more smoothly in our lives, right?

So how our home looks and feels is symbolic of our life.

Cleaner open space equates to more...

The dynamics of each family are different and can certainly be a source of stress, struggle, and stuck-ness for many.

As a child, you want to make your parents/caregivers, grandparents and other family members happy and proud of you. You depend on them for survival and need them to be accepting of or risk being ostracized. 

A very common thing I see and remember doing myself as a child is processing for my parents.

How many times have you watched very young kids throwing a fit and wonder what is going on, why can't they control their child better?!

Well, most often they are processing feelings and emotions that their parents are squishing down and avoiding.

Kids are super aware of energies and emotions, even if they are unable to express them verbally. That pattern of the child taking on their parents' pain and suffering started long ago and can be passed down in families.

I sometimes see this in the DNA and until someone in the family has the awareness and...