The Foods You Choose

What is your current relationship with food?

Is that something you ever think about? Did those questions annoy you, overwhelm you, or do you just not care?

It’s important to know how you’re looking at this topic, even if you feel uncomfortable.

Food is obviously something we need in order to survive. And it can certainly be experienced with a mix of pleasure, discomfort and shame.

How you relate to food is deeply entwined with your childhood experiences. But, I have also done many clearings of ancestral patterns of starvation traumas that have caused ongoing issues in people's lives.

The point is to be open to how your beliefs about food have been created.

Then you can see what, if anything, you’d like to change. 

Even if you have a great relationship with food, I have noticed that times of high stress can activate patterns that can be unhealthy if continued long-term.

It is a good idea to drop the beliefs of good and bad foods.

Yes, you could have a food allergy and you’d want to avoid that food. But to carry thoughts of judgment and resistance about certain foods is just not helpful. 

If you think a certain food will make you gain weight, then you are actually programming your body to react that way.

If you lost weight on a certain diet years ago and now you’ve gained a few pounds you may automatically think you must go on that same diet because it worked before.

But, that isn’t necessarily true. When I was a personal trainer I had people telling me they ate fruit all day but gained 50 lbs.

They’d come to me frustrated asking for my advice, but when I gave it they were hell bent on continuing on their fruit diet. Maybe you don’t want to change or maybe you’re just afraid. 

Check in with yourself, ask your body what it wants and needs now.

I know that’s very different from the highly structured lists and books that tell you what to eat. Your body is wise and will tell you what it requires, if you listen.

Be aware if you are stubbornly deciding what foods are good or bad.

Because if you love a certain food but decide it's bad.

You can avoid eating it for a certain period, but when you do eat it you will likely be charged with all sorts of shame and guilt.

That’s no way to live. 

We use food for survival and nourishment.

But, also to numb uncomfortable feelings.

You may be hungry for love, attention, or safety but don’t feel you can get your needs met.

So you eat to help regulate your nervous system for a bit. It’s not wrong, I just want you to know you can have more ease with what you eat and with your body.

So what is your story with food right now?

Do you eat enough?

Are you making sure you eat regularly, or do you starve yourself all day then overeat?

If you carry lots of fear and judgment around food, please be gentle with yourself.

These questions are just to move energy so you can begin to see there are other possibilities you can tap into.

If you let yourself really enjoy what you’re eating you will begin to trust yourself and experience more safety and ease with nourishing your body.

The foods you choose will naturally be different. Because you are choosing from a place of confidence and safety. 

If you’re ready to drastically improve your relationships with food, book a session with me.

We will quickly clear through, judgments, and habits that have been keeping you stuck in patterns that cause fear around food and your body.