Limits on You

Oct 27, 2017

I know you’ve probably heard it a million times that you are the only one who can stop you. But how exactly are you stopping you? Looking back over your life I’m sure you did go through hard times; you didn’t make them up, they happened. And sometimes we feel if certain things hadn’t happened our lives would be entirely different. It’s funny how that idea could be used against us, by thinking our lives would be SO much better if such and such hadn’t happened. It just keeps us stuck if we look at things that way. Let’s take a look at some ways to let these old stories go finally.

I say this from my own life experience and witnessing numerous clients, friends, and family. If you need to feel validated or you’re holding onto resentment from a past unpleasant experience; you are making yourself a victim. People don’t often like the word "victim, " but it's true. We sometimes think holding onto anger or pain hurts the other person or...

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Who's Responsible?

Oct 16, 2017

I was thinking the other day about who is responsible for my life. It's easy to say, "well me of course; I’m responsible for my own life. Other people can and do help me, but I have to take responsibility and stay in my power." Questioning myself helped me realize how often we take responsibility for what happens in others lives as well. We can contribute to others, but it is not our obligation to live their lives or take on their stuff!

 How many people’s lives do you think you are responsible? Just go with the first number that comes up. Pretty crazy huh?! If you’ve never thought about this before I think you’ll start noticing how much of your time, energy and attention is going towards other peoples lives. What they’re doing, creating, possibly overextending yourself to assist them in reaching their goals. Helping and being there for people we care about is great, but there is a line. 

Do you find that you’re unable to get necessary...

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The Person to Please

Aug 07, 2017

Are you a good friend? How about being a good spouse, parent, employee, etc. Are you Good? Did you feel all the judgment and confusion that came up with that? What if the only person you must please is YOU!? As we go about our lives our focus changes as do our likes and dislikes. Although it can be uncomfortable, it's all a part of life and our never ending expansion into being more of ourselves. Let’s talk a bit about how our relationships and roles change as we advance into an often unknown territory of choosing what’s right for us.

As you commit to making changes in certain areas of your life, you will see that not everyone will be happy or supportive. Because of this, many will choose to stay where they are, never venturing past the point where others start to get pissed off at them. Sometimes the people you thought you were closest to will disappear, say discouraging words. Often it will feel like things are breaking down and that you perhaps had lost your freaking...

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It's All Too Easy!

Jul 26, 2017

Things are getting way too easy, aren’t they? As I look around, I see books, blogs, and even videos focused on problems. I often overhear conversations and listen to others tell me how hard things are like its a badge of honor to do things the hardest way possible. I usually look at them a little perplexed and ask them if they even noticed how many times they said things were hard in the last 10 min of us chatting. Sometimes they are surprised and say that they don’t want things to be hard anymore if there’s any change, things could be easier. Other people look at me like I’m crazy, and say, but it is hard, that’s just how life is.

 

There’s this big misconception that life is hard and that to actually achieve anything you need to go through some struggling, suffering, and hardships. The more challenging the obstacles you overcome, the better. Heck, look at all the singing and dancing shows on tv, they all have to showcase the most...

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