As a young girl I got the message that I was supposed to seek love and approval from outside of myself.

Sure, I was encouraged to be somewhat strong and independent, but not too much, or that would upset others. That my true worth came from others accepting me.

Well obviously that idea made me want to barf and I immediately realized something was VERY off with that way of operating. 

That way of living just wasn’t going to work for me.

I wasn’t sure exactly how I was going to navigate this world but I knew I wasn’t going to let others control me.

I spent years feeling like I constantly had to fight to be myself in a world where everything was telling me to be something else. From magazines, to television, school, and even church telling me something was wrong with me!l 

Maybe you got a similar message that something is not quite right with you and that someone else knows better. Their way of dressing is better, speaking, beliefs etc is somehow superior to yours.

That all feels l...

Are you truly willing to change?

You may have quickly said yes and thought that was a silly question.

But it is VERY possible that you may be trying to stay exactly the same but you want things in your life to be different. [It doesn’t work that way.]

The version of you that has the things you currently don’t have thinks, feels, and behaves differently than your current version.

Sometimes drastically different. You must “die to the old self” in order to embody the new state of being.

Dying sounds kinda drastic, but some states of being I’m sure we want to die, fall away and never come back.

I know a few times in life I have felt that way LOL! 

So what’s the answer?

How do you get the things you’ve been longing for?

CHOOSE.

Sounds so simple, because it is.

You’re just simply not choosing it.

Do you choose once?

Sometimes, but if you have a lot of resistance and momentum fighting against your new choice you will need to choose repeatedly and stay consistent in the...

A few years ago I was spending time with a friend, and he mentioned he was becoming aware of some things as he was getting older.

He feels like everything becomes harder and more is expected of him; things just aren’t fun anymore.

I explained that he’s just very aware of the general way of how things go for most people and what they expect, but that he can choose to do things differently.

As we went about our day, I noticed that he would often smile and say hi to many people, so much so that I thought he knew most of them. Many of them smiled back, but most acted like they didn’t see him.

Towards the end of the night his face lit up, and he said hi to this lady, and she just walked on.

I asked him if he knew her, he said, nope I know very few of the people I say, "hello" too. I just told myself when I was little that I was going to smile. I see so many miserable looking people, and I don’t want to be like that!

What he said was so beautiful and reminded me that I al...

The #1 way to feel SO much happier right this moment is…

STOP comparing yourself to others!

We’ve all heard the saying keeping up with the Joneses, btw that was around long before the Kardashians LOL!

Looking around at your neighbors, schoolmates, colleagues, etc. to see what’s the “in” thing, has been around for ages.

Most of us are taught to compare, compete and strive to beat or be better than others somehow. Which truly only leaves us exhausted and looking at everyone as an enemy to our happiness.

The focus and comparison to others and what they have has caused much more grief than most people are consciously aware.

It can trigger deep feelings of inadequacy, anger, blame, all kinds of fear based emotions.

In essence, when we compare ourselves to others we are saying, there’s not enough for me, there’s a finite supply of love, health, money, happiness and I have to fight others to have a little sliver of that supply.

When we realize there’s way more than enough fo...