Dynamic Family
The dynamics of each family are different and can certainly be a source of stress, struggle, and stuck-ness for many.
As a child, you want to make your parents/caregivers, grandparents and other family members happy and proud of you. You depend on them for survival and need them to be accepting of or risk being ostracized.
A very common thing I see and remember doing myself as a child is processing for my parents.
How many times have you watched very young kids throwing a fit and wonder what is going on, why can't they control their child better?!
Well, most often they are processing feelings and emotions that their parents are squishing down and avoiding.
Kids are super aware of energies and emotions, even if they are unable to express them verbally. That pattern of the child taking on their parents' pain and suffering started long ago and can be passed down in families.
I sometimes see this in the DNA and until someone in the family has the awareness and...
The Power of Doing Nothing
I’m sure you are aware of cycles, look to nature, and you will see a natural rhythm to things each and every day. But you may not be aware that those cycles and rhythms apply to all areas of your life. We aren’t meant to be going at full speed nonstop.
Trying to do everything on your own and helping others with their stuff too. Attempting to do too much for too long can have a very negative impact on your health, relationships, and your outlook on life.
It can take courage to stop and rest. Especially with how much importance the world puts on staying busy. We are taught to keep moving no matter what or risk being seen as lazy.
But what if stopping to do nothing is one of the best things you could do for yourself.
In times of high stress, it can seem counterintuitive to stop and relax. So many spinning anxious thoughts. Feeling you need to do something. Thinking you must keep moving or things will fall apart. It's often at those times we need to stop and do...
Keep Going
As we begin creating our lives more by choice, rather than by default, we may notice certain reactions from others that are uncomfortable to us.
Not everyone is going to be happy or approve of what we choose all the time, or perhaps any of the time.
We have to keep choosing for ourselves anyway.
Firstly it doesn’t matter what you do or say; you will NEVER please everyone.
So spare yourself the agony and running in endless circles of even attempting it.
Sometimes people that you thought were supportive and happy for you will suddenly make an offhanded comment that leaves you wondering what the heck happened?!
You may notice others tense up when you talk about goals or when you share any fun or exciting things in your life. It is their stuff being triggered and by you choosing to grow and expand it is inviting them to do the same.
Some people can find that invitation downright terrifying; Keep going anyway!
People can, and probably will, lie to or about you. Criticize, how...
Asking for Help
This week I want to talk about something that has been on my mind for a very long time, years. The idea of asking for help and all the “stuff” that brings up for people.
I’ve noticed many experiencing resistance, judgment, and guilt around asking for help.
Most of my life I felt tons of judgment towards myself for asking for any help. So I understand why people avoid asking others for help and how it could be viewed as a bad or disempowering thing.
But what if it's not a bad thing?
If you’re going through something and you require more info, ideas, a different perspective on things, just ask. If you were to speak up and ask, maybe things would flow so much easier.
Why stress yourself out spinning in circles trying to resolve something, when you could perhaps ask and have the situation shift, sometimes in an instant!
I find it funny that most of you wouldn’t hesitate to take your car to a mechanic, pay a restaurant to help you with cooking meals, or...
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