A few days ago I was thinking about different times in my life when It seemed like I didn't get what I wanted.

Like the ex boyfriend I thought was amazing and would be the greatest guy for me. Only to realize that there was a way better relationship on the verge of appearing.

Or, getting all gung ho about becoming a personal fitness trainer. Then deciding I love to workout and stay healthy more than I enjoy training others. 

There’s nothing wrong with any of the things I mentioned.

They worked at the time and helped me to dream bigger and be more honest about how I prefer to create my life.

But, I did feel disappointed at first. And I’m sure you’ve felt the same way many times in your own life.

You may have put in a lot of time and energy to achieve a certain goal and then it didn’t happen. But, what if you just changed your mind and it is ok to change your mind!

What if instead of believing you tried so hard and then you didn’t get what you wanted you actually decided you ...

I may have shared this story with you before, but it's so good I’m inspired to mention it again.

Years ago I was on my first cruise and I’ll never forget something I heard.

As I eagerly listened to the first message from the captain I was perplexed by something he said.

He went on and on about how excited he was to have everyone here and that they would go above and beyond to make us all happy during our trip.

To the point that they had specifically set up things around the ship for people to complain about.

Huh?!

Complaining about things, how is that good?

He went on to explain that they had learned that complaining made many people happy. So, they set up things for people to complain about.

This particular massage was loaded with life changing awareness.

It caused me to look at different versions of happiness and each person's compulsions around how they attempt to get their needs met.

What do you get out of complaining?

Some common motivations to complain are… gett...

Did you know that what you say is true is actually true for you?

And your mind will look for evidence to keep affirming whatever your point of view is.

So if you don’t like something it's a great idea to STOP stating it as a fact!

I have had people tell me about things that they hated and wanted to change and when I offered my insight they became defensive and said “But it's a FACT!” I can’t change this!

Like how dare I offer such a ludicrous idea that it could be changed.

Well… ask yourself if you want something to continue being a fact or not. You have the power to change it. 

However; if you are hell-bent on proving and declaring to the world it is a fact, then that is what you will get more of.

That thing you hate hardens into fact over and over again.

Where are you defending something as being a fact in your life?

Is it a relationship, a health issue, or maybe your current money reality?

What have you decided is factual and unchangeable?

You may have a few thi...