It’s so easy to be busy these days.

But, do you really need to be that busy?

In a world where hustle, pushing and striving are touted as the key to success, you may think so. However, your body may have a different point of view. And it may be giving you messages asking you to slow down.

If you are feeling burnt out, having sleep issues, aches, pains, or anxiety.

Your body is giving you some clear messages that something needs to change.

Being chronically busy is a problem that I see many people experiencing.

But, very few actually want to admit it.

Which makes sense considering the busyness is a protective mechanism used to avoid uncomfortable things. 

Yes, we are all busy at times.

However: needing to fill your calendar to the brim and patterns of overworking and even excessive socializing are a sign that something is off. 

“Feeling the need to be busy all the time is a trauma-based response and fear-based distraction from what you’d be forced to acknowledge and fe...

Do you get distracted easily?

I used to be easily distracted and I would chronically multitask.

There’s nothing wrong with that. I just began to notice that there was never a shortage of someone or something ready to take my attention away from things that truly mattered to me.

I wasted years of my life doing what others wanted and adding great value and support to their world. I’m not blaming them, I simply didn’t know.

I did often feel drained, lost and like my purpose was to be others' side-kick in making their life more enjoyable and successful.

It was tricky because I truly enjoyed helping people and didn’t want to stop altogether.

But, somehow my needs and goals got pushed to the side and my investment of  energy, kindness and time were very out of balance. 

Even things that are important to you need to be balanced. And if you don’t value your time nobody else will.

From constant phone notifications, errands to run, traffic, and making time to eat.

It can all get...

Are you stuck in a sad story?

Do you find that you feel an urge to continuously talk about a certain negative event?

We all have unpleasant experiences and some can be traumatic and take a moment to move past.

But, you may notice at times you are overindulging in an unpleasant story/memory.

There is a big difference between searching for a different perspective/healing of something and getting value out of rehashing it.

Here are 4 common patterns I see with overindulging in unhappy stories: 

1.  You get attention- There’s nothing wrong with attention. But if you grew up with neglect(that’s just one example) you may find yourself unconsciously craving attention, even if it comes from drama and unpleasant experiences.
2.   A distraction/excuse- To not choose something different. This is often a way we avoid responsibility for creating our lives. Yes, even the so-called “bad stuff” But, you can choose something entirely different at any moment.
3.  Approval- Connecting to others thro...