The Power of Your Words

The addiction to heavy, stressful conversations is so prevalent in this world that happy conversations are often looked at with suspicion.

Many people picked up the message that they are in a competition, and sometimes that means who has it worse.

To get attention via sympathy and the urge to tell others how bad it is.

It may be that you only got attention when you were sick, in trouble, or causing drama. It is a normal human need to be seen, heard, and feel understood.

But, connecting through problems can become an addiction. You may get some of those needs met for a while but then you will habitually need to talk about problems and complain each time you’re having a conversation.

And what do you think doing that will create in your world? Yep, more problems, unhappiness, and disappointment. 

Let me clarify, if you need help ask for it! If something is bothering you, speak up.

But, if you find yourself dumping on others chronically and not wanting anything to change that’s not a healthy way to operate in the long run. 

I’ve been in relationships before where I could feel the expectation for me to drop my energy and complain as a way to have something in common with the other person.

I’d get weird headaches before speaking to this person and thought oh this is just what we talk about when we get together.

Afterwards I felt so drained and bizarre like I wasn’t even being myself.

It’s similar to maybe you always talk to a certain aunt or uncle about sports or arts and crafts. But, those topics are generally very neutral. 

We all need to vent and shoot the shit sometimes.

However; if you notice most of your conversations are leaning towards the negative, maybe it's time to change things up.

If you truly want something different, you’ve gotta be different.

Start small and ask yourself what do you really need?

What are you trying to accomplish or what are you getting out of these dynamics? 

Take your power back from these automatic ways of relating and decide what you’d like to conversate about instead.

I definitely have times that I need to bitch and complain but I also choose to have awareness and positive insights from all of that.

You will rarely find me just dumping, I seek transformation and more happiness and joy in my world.

What relationships could use an upgrade?

And what if you allow yourself to be happier and shine bright even when others choose to stay stuck?

Change your perspectives to have the life you truly want!

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