The addiction to heavy, stressful conversations is so prevalent in this world that happy conversations are often looked at with suspicion.

Many people picked up the message that they are in a competition, and sometimes that means who has it worse.

To get attention via sympathy and the urge to tell others how bad it is.

It may be that you only got attention when you were sick, in trouble, or causing drama. It is a normal human need to be seen, heard, and feel understood.

But, connecting through problems can become an addiction. You may get some of those needs met for a while but then you will habitually need to talk about problems and complain each time you’re having a conversation.

And what do you think doing that will create in your world? Yep, more problems, unhappiness, and disappointment. 

Let me clarify, if you need help ask for it! If something is bothering you, speak up.

But, if you find yourself dumping on others chronically and not wanting anything to change that’s not ...

Do you notice that you apologize often?

Maybe you say sorry for how someone else feels or if a friend had a negative experience, even if you weren’t involved in the situation.

These habits of over-apologizing are pretty obvious but what about the sneaky ways you are apologizing for being?

Have you ever received really great feedback on something you created but immediately felt a twinge of guilt and worry?

Suddenly you’re contracting and feeling like you’ve done something bad. Wondering who do you think you are to enjoy yourself and to be noticed for your talents?

The world gives us a lot of contradicting information.

Be successful and stand out!

No!

Hide; be small and safe!

And depending upon your childhood experiences/programming you will decide if it is a good or bad thing to be seen and acknowledged for being YOU.

Here a just a few signs you’re apologizing for your awesomeness:

*Deflecting compliments

*Hiding talents from others

*Hiding or downplaying any sort of...

I hear it all the time. I can’t do this or I just can’t do that.

Heck I've even said it to myself more times than I care to count.

We tell ourselves that certain things don’t matter, we will get to it tomorrow, but it often never gets completed.

A common theme under all of this is perfectionism, which is actually a pretty interesting sabotage pattern. There is no perfection, in comparison to what or whom?

So what a great way for you to at least be right and succeed at failing! You can say, see I told you I couldn’t do it and here’s the proof!

One thing I’ve noticed with individuals who choose to perpetually make excuses is that they seem to be quite annoyed or shocked when other people are actually doing things.

Years ago a friend of mine would constantly have an ongoing list of things she was going to do, but when it came time to take any sort of action she had a never-ending catalog of excuses as to why she couldn’t do it.

She was so caught up in thought loops and stor...