The addiction to heavy, stressful conversations is so prevalent in this world that happy conversations are often looked at with suspicion.

Many people picked up the message that they are in a competition, and sometimes that means who has it worse.

To get attention via sympathy and the urge to tell others how bad it is.

It may be that you only got attention when you were sick, in trouble, or causing drama. It is a normal human need to be seen, heard, and feel understood.

But, connecting through problems can become an addiction. You may get some of those needs met for a while but then you will habitually need to talk about problems and complain each time you’re having a conversation.

And what do you think doing that will create in your world? Yep, more problems, unhappiness, and disappointment. 

Let me clarify, if you need help ask for it! If something is bothering you, speak up.

But, if you find yourself dumping on others chronically and not wanting anything to change that’s not ...

I may have shared this story with you before, but it's so good I’m inspired to mention it again.

Years ago I was on my first cruise and I’ll never forget something I heard.

As I eagerly listened to the first message from the captain I was perplexed by something he said.

He went on and on about how excited he was to have everyone here and that they would go above and beyond to make us all happy during our trip.

To the point that they had specifically set up things around the ship for people to complain about.

Huh?!

Complaining about things, how is that good?

He went on to explain that they had learned that complaining made many people happy. So, they set up things for people to complain about.

This particular massage was loaded with life changing awareness.

It caused me to look at different versions of happiness and each person's compulsions around how they attempt to get their needs met.

What do you get out of complaining?

Some common motivations to complain are… gett...

What if complaining is a good thing?

Contrary to popular opinion, it is!

Now I’m not saying to start whining to everyone about everything but expressing things you’re unhappy with can be used to create big positive changes!

Now some people just love to complain and they do not actually want things to be different.

I remember years ago being on a cruise where they announced on the speaker system that they had intentionally set up things for people to complain about because it brought them so much joy.

I thought that was hilarious and had never thought of it that way.

But, I’m talking about the things you really want to shift and upgrade for a happier life. 

What I’m suggesting isn’t exactly venting, but allowing yourself to vent can sometimes shift you into awareness and demand for change.

As you vent there’s usually an energy of just expressing things with no purpose but to just off-load the energy.

But, what if you start looking at times you’re bitching and complaining...