The dynamics of each family are different and can certainly be a source of stress, struggle, and stuck-ness for many.

As a child, you want to make your parents/caregivers, grandparents and other family members happy and proud of you. You depend on them for survival and need them to be accepting of or risk being ostracized. 

A very common thing I see and remember doing myself as a child is processing for my parents.

How many times have you watched very young kids throwing a fit and wonder what is going on, why can't they control their child better?!

Well, most often they are processing feelings and emotions that their parents are squishing down and avoiding.

Kids are super aware of energies and emotions, even if they are unable to express them verbally. That pattern of the child taking on their parents' pain and suffering started long ago and can be passed down in families.

I sometimes see this in the DNA and until someone in the family has the awareness and...

I hear it all the time. I can’t do this or I just can’t do that.

Heck I've even said it to myself more times than I care to count.

We tell ourselves that certain things don’t matter, we will get to it tomorrow, but it often never gets completed.

A common theme under all of this is perfectionism, which is actually a pretty interesting sabotage pattern. There is no perfection, in comparison to what or whom?

So what a great way for you to at least be right and succeed at failing! You can say, see I told you I couldn’t do it and here’s the proof!

One thing I’ve noticed with individuals who choose to perpetually make excuses is that they seem to be quite annoyed or shocked when other people are actually doing things.

Years ago a friend of mine would constantly have an ongoing list of things she was going to do, but when it came time to take any sort of action she had a never-ending catalog of excuses as to why she couldn’t do it.

She was...