Needing To Be Right. But It's A Negative Scary Story

I want to take a look at a common pattern but from a different perspective.

Fighting for your stories.

You know the ones.

The negative, terrible, everything is against you type of stories.

The ones that we all tell sometimes, because they just seem SO TRUE and based on facts. 

You know, our brains actually have a mechanism that will seek to prove us right, whether good or bad.

And the truth is, you are right about whatever you believe.

To you it is absolutely true.

But, do you want to keep experiencing negative or scary stories and create more to match that? 

You might say of course you want to think more positively.

But what I have found is that you may not actually want to change it.

Because you’re looking for someone to witness your pain and suffering.

To tell you that you’re justified in feeling how you do, that of course you were wronged.

Or, to allow another human to witness your story and confirm that your feelings matter.

Which they absolutely do matter!

This isn't just venting though.

It’s a space of vulnerability and often desperation.

A cry for help, parts of you trying to be seen and acknowledged.

Without all the judgments and criticism.

Even with “healing” a lot of times it's looked at as a way to get rid of uncomfortable feelings. 

Notice when you have certain feelings you don’t like.

Do you immediately try to change it?

Even journaling, meditating, or exercising, anything to squash that emotion like a bug because it is dirty, yucky, and certainly not high vibe and spiritual.

Unfortunately that way of approaching things is a huge reason why you get caught in negative thought loops and “unwanted patterns”. 

Although I do lots of clearing and shifting of energies it is just as important for me to recognize when you need me to just be with you.

Being the energy of safety, non judgment, allowance, and possibilities.

And the great news is that you can be that with yourself.

In fact, I highly encourage you to practice doing this more often and regularly. 

You must give yourself what you are seeking from others.

So if you want love, understanding, and non judgement from a friend or family member.

Doesn’t it make sense to give it to yourself?

And when you’re willing to really listen to yourself and your own needs it will be easier to feel trusting and safe within.

Cultivating the knowing that it is absolutely alright for you to have feelings and express yourself. 

For the rest of the week Invite you to just BE.

So, anytime you feel triggered, judgy or want to dump a crappy story…just let the feeling be.

And if you'd like any help creating new stories and exuding confidence with your feelings check out my Express Yourself and Speak Your Truth clearing audios!