Are you stuck in a sad story?

Do you find that you feel an urge to continuously talk about a certain negative event?

We all have unpleasant experiences and some can be traumatic and take a moment to move past.

But, you may notice at times you are overindulging in an unpleasant story/memory.

There is a big difference between searching for a different perspective/healing of something and getting value out of rehashing it.

Here are 4 common patterns I see with overindulging in unhappy stories: 

1.  You get attention- There’s nothing wrong with attention. But if you grew up with neglect(that’s just one example) you may find yourself unconsciously craving attention, even if it comes from drama and unpleasant experiences.
2.   A distraction/excuse- To not choose something different. This is often a way we avoid responsibility for creating our lives. Yes, even the so-called “bad stuff” But, you can choose something entirely different at any moment.
3.  Approval- Connecting to others thro...