The Holiday Trap

Many people struggle with taking time for themselves all year round. Lots of us, especially women, are taught to take care of others first. But always putting others' needs first can be detrimental to your well being.

You may start to harbor a lot of resentment towards others and even towards yourself for not setting healthy boundaries.

The guilt that often comes with setting boundaries can be a big sticking point. Feeling you should do this or that because it's family and you gotta put family first. Or giving gifts to people you don’t really know or like. It's all very draining and not honoring you.

Understand that you really don’t have to do all these things just because you think they are expected of you.

You can tell people no, when you really aren’t interested in attending a party or opting out of a last minute shopping trip for that one person you forgot to get a gift for.

You may feel uncomfortable and worry people might judge you or be angry with you for saying no to things. They might be and that’s ok. It is much better to have others be disappointed with you for a few moments than to be frustrated with yourself for not standing your ground.

I wonder what would happen if you were just honest and told people no when you mean no?

What if knowing your limits and expressing them inspires others to take better care of their needs too?

What if being well rested and doing things you want to do actually allows a more balanced, happier version of you to show up?

From my own experience, that’s most likely what will happen. So stop thinking the worst. You aren’t going to ruin everyone's day by saying no to something and you may even find they are relieved you stood your ground. 

I hope you’re doing great and being consistent with putting your needs first! If you have been, I am sure you’ve noticed tons of positive changes in your life. Keep up the great work! Much love :-)