Is Struggle Your Middle Name?

Do you ever wonder why life seems like a series of struggles, disappointments, and losses?

Seriously though, why do we seem to go through so many trials and tribulations?

I’ve asked myself similar questions throughout my life and have seen some common reasons.

We believe life is about suffering

Vows of punishment & suffering

Family patterns of limitations, loss, disappointments, fears

Now do I think that if you’re suffering it means you sat down and did some ritual to declare you shall suffer for eternity?

Not necessarily but I have seen stranger things come up in someone's energy.

Often we pick up on the patterns and limitations of those around us as children and we naturally match those habits as a form of safety and fitting in.

Some of this is passed down energetically and some is seen and heard directly. 

If we notice our friends and family are continuously at a certain level of happiness, success etc.

If we want to fit in, be loved and feel safe, we will unconsciously play out similar patterns and beliefs.

So many people connect through the sharing of problems.

You may feel, or have  experienced first-hand people getting mad at you if you were too happy and life was going too good.

I know it sucks but it is better to be aware of these things so you can change them. 

You may have learned that you only get love and approval when things are going bad.

Maybe you were neglected but if you were sick or had some sort of drama going on you could find someone happy to help you.

There are too many conflicting life experiences to count but they do shape who we are and our choices.

But, when you identify some of the very old struggle patterns you’ve got going on, you are free to change them. 

First you’ve got to find a way to believe it is safe for life to be easier. 

That even if you did have times that people were mad, jealous, and judgmental.

It doesn’t have to be that way anymore.

And that when you decide to choose differently everyone has to reflect back to you the new dominant beliefs.

One final note.

Some people like to suffer and struggle.

It makes them feel like they are doing something important if they push, strive and earn things. There’s nothing wrong with that.

Just be aware if you have these beliefs, they will be in direct conflict with choosing more ease in life :-)

If you’d like my help clearing through struggle patterns. Book a private session. I’d be happy to help you have more lightness in your world