Are You Afraid of Love?

I’ve been helping people for many years now and can you guess what the #1 topic that I’m asked for help with? 

Yes, fun fabulous Romantic Relationships is top of the list with relationships in general as the second most popular.

This can be a very difficult subject for people, but it doesn’t have to be.

Let’s look at some different ways of allowing more love into your life.

I really want to help you finally get and keep the relationship of your dreams.

But, in order to do that, we need to gather some important information about your beliefs regarding love.

So, what does love mean to you? Maybe you think of family, romance, or cute little puppies wagging their tails.

Whatever your first thoughts were; I’d like you to take a deeper look at what you call love.

Imagine what it feels like for you to love and be loved. Was it all good, or did you have some uncomfortable thoughts and feelings pop up?

Like the jerk or jerkette that you overgave to but they lied and broke your heart repeatedly.

Be honest and write it all down.

Now, think of a particular person you are in a romantic relationship with, or want to be.

Imagine them saying they love you, giving you lots of kisses and snuggles.

Whatever your ideal scenario is.

How did you feel?

Could you receive and feel safe?

Or, did your mind wander to them hurting you eventually, hidden resentment about not being chosen and past disappointments?

Those things that make you twinge with fear and retract are the feelings and thoughts that are dominantly running the show.

Those uncomfortable feelings are powerful and tell you very important information about yourself and what is stopping you from allowing your ideal relationship.

Do NOT push them away!

Notice them and write them down.

If you don’t acknowledge fears, worries and negative what-ifs, they will be lurking and you’ll be triggered by them sooner or later.

And if you think that pretending you’re fine and confident all the time works, it doesn’t.

Allowing yourself to know what your fears and worries are actually takes the charge and power out of them.

But, if you avoid and squish them back down you will be surprised when suddenly you’re feeling rejected and abandoned by something they did or didn’t do that reminded you of past hurts. 

I’m sure you have a pretty good idea of some of your particular worries about love.

But, I want to share some common ones I hear from others and maybe you can relate to these as well

Common Love Fears:

• You’ll feel trapped and smothered
• You will get bored or they will get bored with you
• It won’t last- You will eventually get hurt
• Belief in competition. There’s always another man or woman
• Afraid they won’t like you if they really know you

Love doesn’t have to be complicated but you do need to be willing to look at your true motives and feelings.

If you think you’ll feel happy and worthy when you get this person's love, prepare for a rude awakening.

It is totally natural to want to be loved, but that love must come from YOU first! 

If you make it all about them, saying they are the greatest love of your life and if they only loved me then I wouldn’t feel so lonely, lost, and unsatisfied you are giving your power to them.

Eventually, you will feel resentful because the dynamic is that you need your worth and value constantly filled up from another person. 

Start loving yourself as much as you think you love this other person and your life will change in magical amazing ways! 

If you’d like more help to create a powerful, happy, and truly fulfilling love relationship. Please check out my Romancing You Class!